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Sex Ed Before Bed explores powerful and meaningful topics that often go undiscussed in our daily lives. In bringing these conversations into the open, my intention is that collectively, we can approach them with less shame and more compassion, giving them the nuance that they often require. As part of a small cadre of Canadian podcasts focused on this topic, with over 8,000 listeners, Sex Ed Before Bed’s growing fan base signals a rising interest in sexual health and politics. Since 2017, guests have included experts and folks with lived experience, including sex workers, 2SLGBTQIA+ folks, researchers, educators, psychotherapists, physicians and program facilitators. Sex-positivity, anti-oppression frameworks inform the podcast and the tone is one of humility and curiosity. I aim to bring what I have learned and my experiences to the mic and understand that sexual health education is a lifelong learning experience for me, and for all of us. I don’t have all the answers and I see myself as “along for the ride” with the listener, grateful for the stories, wisdom and insight of my wonderful guests. What I want to give listeners through this experience: ● To have more informed, joyful, liberating sexual experiences ● To see a topic or marginalized group in a new light ● To unlearn harmful stereotypes and cultivate more empathy ● To be aware of timely sex-related Canadian research and news
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Saturday Aug 26, 2017
Saturday Aug 26, 2017
Karen B.K. Chan is a legendary sex educator in Toronto, Canada. For more than 20 years, she's been teaching youth, adults and couples about sex, sexuality and emotional intelligence, but I first learned about her when someone showed me a clip of her talking about consent. She was chill, funny, and gave her audience a lot of respect. I could see how her approach worked.
Consent is one of the main reasons I wanted to be a sexual educator and it was a privilege to talk about how vague and messy consent navigation is with someone so well versed in the topic.
Expect to hear a nuanced chat about:
- what does consent look like when you're drunk or high?
- how to establish boundaries
- rejection strategies
- what emotional literacy looks like
- what it's like for Karen to teach people who are homophobic or racist
- strategies for confronting racism and homophobia in your own family or friend group
The theme song is Rise and Shine by Audiobinger. Edited for time and volume. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Audiobinger/~/Rise_and_Shine_1696
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Wes Heney was born female. That is, he had the anatomic composition or body of a person most people would see as female. As Wes reached puberty, he grew breasts that he detested. He dressed like a guy and wanted to be treated as such. He sensed a profound disconnect between his body (anatomic sex) and who he felt he was - his gender identity.
In episode 4, Wes tells the unforgettable full story. I ask some basic questions about:
What's it like taking testosterone?
What kind of stigma did you encounter?
What was your transition process?
The theme song is Little Lily Swing by Tri-Tachyon.
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Veronica is a social psychologist, and the owner of The Nookie, a downtown Toronto sensuality shop. V describes her escape from corporate life into value-based entrepreneurship, manifested in a sex shop that urges all genders to seek more pleasurable experiences.
The theme song is Little Lily Swing by Tri-Tachyon. Edited for time and volume. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Tri-Tachyon/Little_Lily_Swing/Tri-Tachyon_-_01_-_Little_Lily_Swing
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
So what does a sex therapist do?
Matthew Ridley is a Pre-Clinical Fellow with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy and holds an M.Sc. from the University of Guelph in Couple and Family Therapy.
In episode 3, Matthew and I talk about how he provides queer and sex-positive sex therapy for couples and singles and address these questions and way, way more:
Is there a "normal" when it comes to sex?
How can refuting ideas about how we think sex is supposed to be ignite our private lives?
Is porn bad for you/your relationship?
Who knows? You might get some complimentary therapy along the way ;)
The theme song is Little Lily Swing by Tri-Tachyon. Edited for time and volume. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Tri-Tachyon/Little_Lily_Swing/Tri-Tachyon_-_01_-_Little_Lily_Swing
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Carly is a sex educator, she visits schools to teach Ontario’s relatively new sex education curriculum, launched in September 2015. Carly also remembers the old sex ed curriculum, you know, the one that hasn’t changed since 1998. That one. Carly talks about how the new curriculum is lightyears ahead of the old, the challenges she has with it, and what she enjoys about the work she does.
The theme song is Hungaria by Latché Swing. Edited for time and volume. http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Latch_Swing/demo_2008/Hungaria
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Saturday Jul 29, 2017
Whitney Wilson manages the Domestic Violence Court Referral Program at The John Howard Society. When a person is charged with domestic violence, they might attend a program run by her to help them challenge their attitudes and behaviours.
So what causes domestic violence? As Whitney explains, it has to do with upbringing but also the way society strictly defines masculinity. Most domestic violence offenders are male and, as she explains with eloquence, men don’t think they’re allowed to express negative emotions, aside from anger. As Whitney reveals, anger is a secondary emotion, it’s driven by something else. This is a fascinating analysis of how social constructs can factor into violence.
It’s not all heavy. Hear the rehabilitative tactics Whitney uses to help clients amp up their empathy and unearth a deeper sense of what it means to “be a man”.
The theme song is Take Me Now by Nick Chapman.